If there is one thing that littlegem excels at, it is sleeping. Give her a good 10 hour night’s sleep and she’ll still happily have a lie in if the situation allows. Night owls we are not and a week doesn’t go by with me having to wake her up from the sofa in the evening so we can go upstairs to bed.
More often than not this is because we lay down on the sofa together, I wrap my arms around her and she feels warm and secure. With her eyes closed it is not long before she is gone. As time goes by in our D/s dynamic and with certain pressures to everyday life a DD/lg style relationship is becoming stronger. She’ll be naked or in her little bodysuit and feels secure wrapped in my arms. For me it is sweet, although it can feel lonely when you have the time awake to yourself, especially when you can’t move as half her body is on top of me.
It’s not like we’re new to it, littlegem has Ruby, her little side that comes out every so often. It’s the everyday interactions that seem to blur the lines between ‘normal’ and little. Falling asleep and having to told to go bed is the norm, wearing clothes for littles is the norm. We have always been affectionate to each other and cuddling so much is a prime example of that.
Since we have two young children it makes sense to be playful and fun around them. They are probably getting to the age where we need to be more careful, especially regarding what we say around them. Do they question the cuddly toys on the bed? No, the problem is trying to stop them stealing them as they are her toys, not theirs. Do they think its weird that Mummy has a bodysuit with ‘I heart Daddy’ on? No, they can’t read yet and even if they could they wouldn’t know the kinky reference of it. They do not question when I cradle gem in my arms on the sofa, in fact they more often than not try to get in on the action.
Being a Daddy and a little isn’t something to be hidden, not for now anyway. What this part of our dynamic shows is that we are a loving couple and are not afraid to have silly fun. So for now we maintain the fun little everyday parts of our life and we hold onto them as long as we can.
Indulging the Little
If you have a partner that likes to be silly or have fun I would recommend indulging them. Letting them do the things they want to do regardless of whether they should. If they want to be held and have their hair stroked it brings intimacy. If they want to be told a story before bedtime then do so because it might bring needed comfort. Do silly things, have little treats to reward them or bring them up when they are down. Make them feel safe and secure so they may explore the feelings they have.
There are some things that have more acceptance in society than others, having pet names and adult colouring books for example. It doesn’t have to be labelled DDlg, it can be whatever you want it to be.
We have an occasional tradition called ‘the cheese and sausage festival’. It consists of buying a selection of cheeses and sausages from different origins and than making a platter, compete with little flags. The food is then tasted and judged. It is silly and fun but it is an activity we do together and that’s what makes it special.
So when it’s evening time and littlegem snuggles into my chest and closes her eyes it makes me feel happy. It isn’t a sexual moment of our dynamic, it doesn’t need to be. It is intimate and I know that she feels comfortable to be the sleepy princess that she is.