Cock Worship and Blowjobs, how do they differ?

Cock Worship and Blowjobs, how do they differ?

Occasionally there are questions you want to ask but feel they are so basic that you’d be stupid for asking. We regularly chat about how our dynamic is going and the direction we would like to take it. More often than not the direction we want is more. More submission, more dominance, more kink. Within this conversation the topic of cock worship was brought up. During this we discussed what made it different to oral sex.

Unfortunately the boring answer is that there is most probably no one way to define it. Every relationship is different and the power exchange between people varies. But I felt it was important for me to explain what differs between the two experiences. At the time I remember littlegem asking me what it was I was after. So here is a little explanation from my point of view.

The Blowjob

Oral sex can occur in any sexual relationship. Typically the primary purpose is that the giver is pleasuring the receiver. This pleasure may aim to bring the receiver to orgasm, or could be part of foreplay for a greater sexual encounter.

Littlegem has asked me before what it is I want when she gives me a blowjob. What I tell her that I desire the most is to feel that she enjoys giving pleasure, there is nothing sexier than enthusiasm. After that I have communicated what it is that I enjoy most. Littlegem knows the places I like licked and sucked. She has trained herself to take me deep inside her throat and when she brings me climax she swallows every last drop, she’s a good girl. 

The Cock Worship 

For me cock worship is less about showing off your cock sucking talents and bringing about ultimate pleasure. It is more about respecting your dominant partner by taking the time to show submission. It is probably is misnomer to call it cock worship when it’s more than that. I love when littlegem is between my legs and she is paying attention to everything before her, exploring my body with hers. For me it is about a  sensory experience. 

Sight

Taking the time to gaze at your partner, looking at everything that makes their body beautiful. Exploring with your eyes the parts of them that also bring you pleasure. Simply looking at the uniqueness of their genitals. Every so often maybe look at your partner, they may want to have that eye contact while you worship them. 

Smell

Everyone has a smell, one that can remind you of them when they aren’t there. Smell is more powerful than you think, so why not take the time to become familiar with your partner’s own scent. 

Touch

The gentle touch of the skin her cheek as it rubs against my thigh. The pleasure comes from her really taking her time to stroke and caress. Hands are important to feel the connection between you. Anything that involves skin to skin contact. Mix it up by using your hands and mouth in different places at the same time. Your hands can travel, exciting all those nerve endings that are present. 

Taste

Brushing your lips to begin with, start softly with light kisses. This can become a lick, a suck. Much like smell, enjoy the taste of your partner as you use your mouth to gradually explore them. 

Hearing

As you connect and become more intimate it is important to listen. Hear how your partner responds to what you are doing. Get to know what it is they enjoy, the places they like to be touch or licked or kissed. Find what is sensitive so you may learn more about how to submit to your partner sexually. 

I want her to get lost in the feeling, then so can I. Time should stand still as we connect our bodies during this physical manifestation of our power exchange. I don’t want her to be deepthroating me or edging me, even though those are things I enjoy. Blowjob an make your mouth ache after not too long. I don’t want to feel like there is a short window before it becomes uncomfortable. This is simply a different kind of experience I am after. It is slow and gentle and takes time, it is an intimate experience. 

And in the end, does it need to finish in orgasm? No. Don’t get me wrong if you asked me at the time my answer would probably be a lot different. What’s makes the difference is knowing that I am wanted, it feels sexy, it makes me feel strong and dominant. 

Oral Sex and the Power Exchange

Of course oral sex is not limited to littlegem being the giver and I the receiver. Although since starting our D/s there has been a change in how I give oral sex. This is mainly due to her submission, her pleasure has been become something to be played and toyed with. Bringing her to the edge, making her needy. I enjoy the power I have as I look up at her and watch as she writhes in pleasure and desire.

What I have enjoyed recently is while laying in bed together is to command littlegem to straddle over me and hold the headboard while I give her oral sex. The position, also know as ‘queening’ is usually for dominant females, however this is not how littlegem feels. She feels vulnerable and naughty, because she enjoys it. She tells me it makes her want to squirt and that she’d be mortified if she did. I like to use this to make her squirm.

Oral sex is whatever you want from it, giving or receiving. It is not just about orgasms it’s connective as forms a part of an intimate relationship. 

 

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19 Replies to “Cock Worship and Blowjobs, how do they differ?

  1. Rex and I are definitely not in a submissive or dominant relationship but we do this queening thing sometimes! Haha! We both take it in turns to put our genitals up to each other’s faces. It is easy to give pleasure in this position as we are a bit ancient I can rock backwards and forwards.
    Good post!

    1. Thank you, although I see it as a ‘this is how I like it’ rather than ‘this is what you should be doing’. Don’t think I know enough to tutor yet.

  2. It was really interesting to read your post and see things from your point of view. I has a post of my own on the cards as cock worship was on our calendar for last night so have written mine and linked to yours. Hope that is ok ?

  3. You made me think about this—the difference between a blow job and cock worship! My take may be a little different, but that’s ok. Great post! Nice pic to illustrate your point as well!

  4. Ooh I really enjoyed this. I have always had mixed feelings blowjobs, but they are starting to move closer towards the positive than the negative. Maybe one day soon I can blog about it I hope, but not yet, is secret adventure right now! :p Your post was actually really informative though for someone who hasn’t always embraced blowjobs and even less so as a bottom. I also agree with little gem on the straddling someone’s face for oral sex. I love it, but it definitely feels vulnerable for me and if that position were combined with oral sex and fingering I 100% would squirt and honestly I kind of want to do that, lol! Brilliant post and it definitely got my mind whirring 🙂 x

    1. It’s always nice to hear a different opinion.
      I really hope that mind whirrs into some sexy posts. I’d be interested to read more about your mixed feelings though because obviously I’m more inclined to see it from a positive light.

      I have to admit that I really like it too when littlegem straddles me, I can see all of her and view her enjoyment.

  5. I love this! So yes, I think (for me) there’s a difference between a blow job and cock worship. I *feel* different when I’m worshipping his cock versus when it’s a blowjob for his pleasure. It’s all for his pleasure, but when it’s “just” a blowjob, I primarily feel satisfaction at a job well done (pun unintended). When it’s a cock worship moment, I feel every inch my submissive self and want to show my desire to serve with my mouth.

    As for “queening” — I often forget that’s the term for it because the few times I sit on JB’s face, I definitely don’t feel in control. I feel out of control and know that he’s definitely still in charge, lol. So I can relate to gem’s feelings on the position. 🙂

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