Following some recent life complications it was decided that we were going to make some changes. Ones that hopefully will create a more defined boundary between everyday life and our kinky side.
First of all I am going to write a list of all the rules, rituals and responsibilities we have to each other. Particularly to help me remember it all, as it’s becoming a lot to think about. Not following up on a rule isn’t good for our power exchange. Its also a chance to make adjustments to ‘unwritten rules’ to give a bit more clarity. Currently it’s a work in progress so I’ll leave it at that for now.
The other part was to give littlegem a sub name. Gem was the one that came up with this idea, she wanted me to come up with a name that will differentiate between our lives. One that will just be for me and her.
Why Not littlegem?
Firstly littlegem is a name she came up with. It’s only used online and I have never used the name littlegem out loud. The only exception being at Eroticon and it sounded odd then. Nothing adds to social awkwardness when you hesitate when someone asks what your names are.
The Many Names of littlegem
Obviously littlegem has a real name, I use her nickname around friends and family as that’s how they know her. I use her full name when I’m being stern to her. Around the kids we refer ourselves as mummy and daddy. Not to be confused when she calls me Daddy, different tone, completely different. Of course on top of that there are her other persona’s, ruby, her little side and puppy, her pet side.
There are also the names she uses during our various role plays:
Diamond, a stripper at a gentleman’s club.
Amber, a masseuse that gets rather hands on with her clients
Opal, a prostitute that gets picked up from the street.
Gemma Littlestone, a naughty schoolgirl that is always getting into trouble.
Crystal, adult entertainer, still a work in progress that will have to be discussed another time.
So it’s fair to say it can get a bit complicated when it comes to naming.
Coming up With a Sub Name
I know gem, I know that almost any name I pick she won’t like, not at first anyway. I just have to pick something for myself. It may seem like an action more acustom to a Master/slave dynamic, which isn’t where we are currently. But that was the agreement, I choose the name and that’s what you’ll be called.
But I still wanted it to mean something. It needed to be relevant to gem stones, as with the others (with the exception of puppy).
So I’ve chosen a name, it’s a name I’ll only use around each other and during play. The intention being to change her mindset quickly back to being a sub when there are distractions. Almost like an instant trigger to quickly separate her feelings. But that’s a way off, it may not even work. We’ll just have to see.
What was the name? Oh I’m not telling, not yet anyway.