There is nothing I like more than getting littlegem naked. To photograph, to play, simply to look at. However change is afoot.
There are two distinct parts of my life. The kinky lifestyle with naked photos side that you see here and the real life side.
In real life we are a family of 4. Myself, littlegem and our two young daughters. So far littlegem and I have been able to play regularly and take photos, fitting it around our family commitments. However as they grow older things change. I wasn’t naive enough to think this wouldn’t happen, I know that change is inevitable.
Our oldest daughter has transitioned from a cot with bars to a big girl bed. She is also potty training, so there is a big shift in her routine. This means that when it comes to bedtime at 7 no longer can we put them both down and that’s that.
“I need a wee wee, I need a wee wee.”
This is all part of being a dad and it is part of bringing up a family. But it does get frustrating when it takes up to 2 hours to get her to lay in her bed and sleep. It challenges my mindset, it gets late and I want to sit down and do very little. Littlegem feels it too, at least I get a break by going to work during the week.
There has been a reduction in the play we do. That has a direct effect on the power exchange we have. Play puts littlegem is a submissive mood, which feeds my dominance. A lack of that has led to us slipping, but some of it can’t be helped. Ultimately the children come first.
Getting that balance will take time, especially as change will continue to happen. Summer days mean it is light early, the older child will rise too, leaving the room and jumping in our bed.
So here are the considerations:
Should we continue using the chain that I cuff littlegem into at night?
– What should I do about a loss of sleep?
– How will I find time to play?
Are there others ways to maintain the dynamic?
Decisions will need to be made, most likely resulting in a compromise between what is best for the children and littlegem’s well being.
Recently we booked a couple of nights away, spending a bit more than we planned for just the two of us. We felt a bit guilty spending money needlessly on just ourselves. But later that night as I looked into the monitor to see my daughter screaming because I gave her the wrong colour sticker I thought to myself, yes I do deserve a break.
Squeezing in time to play
This isn’t to say there isn’t time to be intimate. One night we found ourselves with a bit of time. The play I’d planned wasn’t going to happen so I had to think on my feet. I decided to tell gem to get on all fours while I take her roughly from behind. She was to be taken for my pleasure, at least that was the plan. It didn’t work out that way and littlegem was left disappointed, I felt awful that I hadn’t put her in the headspace.
The following night we found ourselves in a similar situation, time was short so a more relaxed approach was taken. I used the Electrastim, trying with the dildo, followed by the pads. Laying on her front littlegem felt relaxed, so relaxed that she fell asleep!
Heading upstairs to bed she knelt at the foot of the bed, ready to be let in. She was chained up and allowed in. Joining her we had a cuddle, then a kiss.
Then it was like a spark ignited, within seconds we were fucking passionately. We needed this, we needed to feel and hear each others enjoyment. It was intense, I remember holding my hand over littlegem’s mouth as I thrust deep inside of her to stop her screaming.
Laying back in the bed in the post coitus glow I ask, “shall we try to cuddle again?”
And we did, we both slept a lot better than we have for a while.