This week’s Food for Thought Friday is about how film influences your kinky lifestyle.
My favourite film is Up! Unusual maybe but littlegem and I do like watching
children’s family films. I love its stunning visuals, soundtrack and unique story line. I didn’t think it had much influence in my life apart from being a theme for one of our daughter’s bedroom. Turns out I can crowbar some similarities between it our kink lifestyle.
Warning: Contains spoilers of the film, but it’s 10 years old now so it’s your own fault if you haven’t seen it.
Why do I like it?
Up starts with a 10 minute sequence showing a young boy (Carl) and girl (Ellie) with a shared interest in an explorer growing up together. It is an emotional roller coaster as they get married, buy a house and plan a life together. Soon turning into a series of events that puts their lifelong dream of travelling on hold. This is followed by miscarriage and the inability to have children, which is unusual for film aimed at families. But for many it is very real, it is heartbreaking and something none of us would wish on anybody. Agonisingly this is followed by the illness and death of the wife, grief (especially from a male perspective) being another issue I’m glad the film tackles. The adventure book they wish to have filled remains empty.
I’m still yet to get through this sequence without crying, I know what’s going to happen but I just can’t stop it.
The film now focuses on Carl in the present day, an old man living on his own in the same house.
Ok, So What Does This Have to do With Your Dynamic?
Firstly, I feel I share some of the characteristics of Carl, not wanting to change and being a bit of a git. In his case, staying in the same house as the area around him is redeveloped. Underneath however he has a strong heart, even if he doesn’t always show it.
The Adventure Book
Carl and his wife Ellie had an adventure book. It was to be filled with all the travels they planned to go on. However it was never fulfilled while they were together. Carl took the book as he went on the adventure himself, only to find when he got there Ellie had filled it herself before her death.
Inside were pictures of both of them together. The life they had spent together was the adventure, no matter that they weren’t able to achieve their dream. She wrote in the book, thanking him and telling him to write his own adventure. This is another part that gets me every time, I am a mess watching this film.
Adventure Is Out There
We all have bumps in the road of our life, some are bigger than others. We think of the fantasies that are out of our reach. It can be easy to think of the could haves. But the true joy comes from those small pleasures. A cuddle, spending time with friends and family.
Thinking about it, this blog is our adventure. Each post we share is a page, with it is a memory, a photo, a small facet of our life to look back on. It could be a kinky scene we had, a place we visited or a drop in our dynamic. It is real, it is the good, the bad and the naughty bits. It is not about where we want to get to, but the enjoyment we have getting there. One day I hope to be an old man, looking back at my adventure and being happy for the experiences I had and the memories we shared.