All About Bondage

Bondage is something we use quite a lot and I hadn’t really thought about it as bondage as such. When I think of bondage what immediately comes to mind is rope. When we first started our dynamic we spent ages watching videos of rope bondage, different ties that seemed mostly decorative. We didn’t yet have the knowledge of how to incorporate it into a play scene. Although it is fun just to be tied up, it does take a while so if it’s not being used for a greater purpose it is time consuming. Now I think back though, bondage is something we used before D/s, we had bondage tape, used handcuffs and silk ties from time to time but they were not used often and not in the same way as we do now.   

Decorative Rope

I am glad we did start with the basics and more decorative ties, as it gave us the foundation of knowledge we have now. The knots and harnesses PurpleSole learnt to tie can be used as a small part of a greater scene. Plus I do really enjoy bondage photos. Being tied up in an elaborate way just for the sole purpose of having a photo is really relaxing. I enjoy how the rope feels brushing against my skin and the look on PS face when he is concentrating. It makes me feel like I am a piece of art he is working on, carefully putting all the lengths of rope in place. Meticulously making sure all the knots are even and the rope lies flat. I feel secure as he pulls the rope tightly against my body, always checking in to make sure it’s not too tight. It’s a very enjoyable experience all round.

Rope bondage- an open bag full of different types and colours of rope used for rope bondage
Rope Bondage bag

We have several different types of rope and in a few different colours. These are good to combine to make pretty patterns for a greater effect. Cotton rope is what we started off with but soon found that it was too soft so the knots would slip, not really useful for times when PS would want me to stay bound. As it was an area of play we had growing enjoyment in we decided to purchase some hemp rope. It is a bit more pricey but very much worth it and the effect is really good. We have natural and of course purple hemp rope all in 6mm gauge as it seemed the most useful for the different ties.

I have tried a few ties myself that I made up, but most of the time it is PS tying me and using ties that he has seen on the internet. Our favourite sites include The Duchy and Beautiful Bondage we also find ideas from YouTube. The sites have a wealth of information so make it so easy for anybody to give it a try.

Rope Bondage- littlegem has been decoratively tied in a rope corset

Bondage with purpose

Once PS had learnt the basic harnesses and felt comfortable doing them from memory we began to use them in scenes. PS has written before about how he used a rope harness with the wand attached to it. It worked really well and to my surprise held the wand in place despite my squirming. It’s really handy to use the rope in different ways and saves on buying lots of different things. PS has also written about when he used rope bondage to keep my arms in place during impact play. He is very good at coming up with new ways to keep me in still.

Moving away from rope bondage a bit, PS does use other things to restrain me. PS uses a spreader bar on my ankles during play so I am unable to move my legs together. This is good to use for forcing orgasms from me or during impact play. Sometimes PS will combine this with over the door restraints to keep my arms immobile as well. This type of bondage is really good for making me feel forced into submission and although I don’t need to be forced, I enjoy the excitement that it brings.  

Predicament Bondage

We have experimented a little bit with predicament bondage and although I haven’t written about it we have posted pictures (click here and here if you would like to see). The scenes we have done were using our anal hook along with some rope. The idea with predicament bondage is you can either be placed in an uncomfortable position and when you have to shift position it moves the anal hook further in or you can be placed comfortably and be made to move, again moving hook deeper. I think our scenes sort if used a bit of both. I really enjoyed being made to squirm and the weight of the anal hook and also that its cold metal is a pleasing predicament for me.

There are of course other methods of predicament bondage using clamps attached to nipples etc, but this isn’t an area we have played in yet. Nipple play in general is still fairly new for us as they were off limits whilst I was breastfeeding.  

Chains and Cuffs

I have a number of daily rituals that I do to return to my submissive head and one of these is to be chained to the bed at night. I will kneel at the foot of the bed and wait for PS, once he has finished getting ready he will allow me to enter the bed. He then attaches a cuff to my ankle which in turn has a chain attached to it and cuff the other end is attached to the foot of the bed. I stay like this until morning where he will release me. I love this ritual as it is a constant reminder all night that I am secure and his. On the rare occasion that we go away, the chain comes with us aswell and PS always finds a way to attach it to the bed (sometimes he has to be resourceful).

I was trying to find if we had written about this before, which we have. The chain and cuff we use now are different to the ones in the link photo. In the beginning we used rope, then moved onto the chain and cuff in the linked photo. I think for some extra comfort, and style, we purchased a wrist cuff set that was the same set as puppy’s collar (which is lovely and padded). I got some pliers out to separate the cuff off the chain to add in an additional length of chain to make it long enough to reach the bed.

PS also had an additional use of the cuff recently whilst travelling to Eroticon. He wanted to try and make me feel at ease during the journey so bound my hand to his with the cuff and some finger loops. You can read more it here.

Suspension

This is an area we have not delved into yet but does really interest me. The idea of not only being immobile but floating as well I can imagine has an amazing affect on your body. For the time being I am happy to be in awe at seeing pictures of others suspended. I was pretty excited at Eroticon as they did a live suspension on a frame. It was really fun to watch and at the same time I was trying to work out if it would fit in our house at all. Sadly not without knocking down some walls.

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8 Replies to “All About Bondage

    1. What a thorough and informative post about bondage. I really enjoyed reading this and especially the description of how each form of bondage makes you feel. Thanks for sharing 😊

  1. ‘I really enjoyed being made to squirm and the weight of the anal hook and also that its cold metal is a pleasing predicament for me.’ That kind of statement makes you want to read more!!

  2. This was very illuminating to read, I enjoy reading how others play and understanding their dynamic.
    Your rope tying skills are awesome! I love how it looks pretty, like a garment. I see the value of mixing colours of rope now! Wonderful stuff – you two show a great dedication to each other’s pleasure. Thanks for sharing.

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