To be honest this Christmas hasn’t really been about the kink. While there have been a few things going on its been mainly about family. This year is the first Christmas with 2 children. It is wonderful to watch, I made sure to take plenty of photos and videos as they played together. They have lots of fun playing with family and friends that we see, opening presents and being swept up in the hype of Christmas. All this means that it is less relaxing for us, keeping an eye on both of them in case they go or do something they shouldn’t.
On a typical day I will go to work while gem looks after the children. I come home after 6pm, we have dinner as a family then get them ready for bed. If we’re lucky quiet falls upon the house around 7.30pm. Since I’ve got some time off for Christmas I’m around all day this means more family time for me. Gem does an excellent job on a daily basis with the children, because sometimes they aren’t always the little angels they pretend to be. They are hard work (but worth it). Unfortunately I have been guilty of not doing enough.
On Christmas day we had been tired since mid afternoon and I had sat down. I needed to keep myself busy to avoid the post Christmas meal tiredness but I didn’t. We spoke about it the following day. We are a team when it comes to family so I shouldn’t continue to let gem do the majority share of looking after the children while I’m off work, it is her Christmas holiday too.
If anything it is a lot less tiring being at work. I don’t for a second think that gem has it any easier by not working. She is around those children all day, every day. She works her butt off making sure they are happy, fed and looked after.
So when it’s 7.30pm (or later, depending when the
monsters angels have decided to sleep) it’s understandable why she needs me to take back some control. I am there to help her unwind, to get into a headspace so that she can feel herself again. I have underestimated the importance of her need to be controlled, so she may let go of the reigns of motherhood and sink into the pillow of submission.
D/s and children go together like oil and water. But if we didn’t have the children we probably wouldn’t have the dynamic we have now. The relationship between adult and child or Dom and both sub require constant work and can be a challenge. But the rewards for both far outweigh that, the love they give and the connection that you share.